If you’re a guy or a man and you’re sensitive to coming too fast during sex and you want to learn how to control sexual arousal to add more minutes to your performance time, or you are fairly okay between the sheets and you just want to know how to control your sexual arousal to go a bit longer, then this article is for you.
Controlling sexual arousal is a key step toward holding back ejaculation and prolonging intercourse.
You see, when we’re having sex, our sexual arousal gradually increases… and continued sexual stimulation gets us excited which further increases our arousal…
…then as sex gets hot and heavy, our sexual arousal intensifies, which then results in ejaculation and then finally orgasm.
Now, to prolong sex or to last longer during sex, you need to know how to control your sexual arousal.
You will have to control and manage your arousal from the onset of sex and throughout – until the time you decide to ejaculate and orgasm.
When you keep your arousal from escalating and at a manageable level, you will be able to hold back or delay ejaculation… and consequently, prolong sex.
Leave it too late and you will blow your load sooner than you would like to.
Even if you stop sex and stay clear of all forms of stimulation, you will still come.
…in this article, I teach you how to control sexual arousal in order to delay ejaculation and prolong sexual intercourse.
I share with you step-by-step exactly how to control your sexual arousal right from the onset until the time you want to come and end sex.
Without further ado… let’s get to the steps on how to control sexual arousal to hold back ejaculation and prolong sex.
How to Control Sexual Arousal
Step #1 – Spend a lot of time on foreplay
…preferably 20 minutes kissing and fondling your girl (or woman).
This will relax you, and consequently, help you prolong sex.
Skipping foreplay and heading straight to sex or rushing through foreplay to get to sex will make you blow your load sooner than you would like to.
This is because sex in itself is exciting. And we guys tend to get overly excited even before sex begins. And as a result, our excitement intensifies rapidly during sex and we blow our load sooner than we would like to.
Plus, when one has stamina issues or is sensitive to coming too fast, the over-excitement pushes him to the brink of ejaculation ready to tip over upon the slightest penile stimulation.
Now, when you’re relaxed, it becomes much easier for you to control your arousal.
Here, you will be able to handle sexual stimulation and keep off the urge to ejaculate quickly for a long period of time.
Ample foreplay is key to prolonging intercourse.
Here’s a secret tip:
Ample foreplay gets a woman or a girl wet to avoid extreme stimulation to the penis.
You see, when a girl or a woman IS dry or NOT sufficiently wet down there, penetration or thrusting in and out of her causes extreme friction to the head of the penis and intensifies the sensations around it.
And if you are sensitive to coming too fast, this extreme friction and intense sensation pushes you closer and closer to ejaculation and makes you lose control in no time.
However, a lubricated (wet) vagina causes less friction and hence lessens stimulation to the head of the penis. And you can thrust in and out of your girl (or woman) at any speed without experiencing the extreme friction that will cause you to lose control and ejaculate too soon.
The less intense the friction to the penis, the less likely you are to ejaculate early… and the longer you’re going to last.
Foreplay not only gets a woman turned on and primed for an orgasm much quicker, but it also gets you more relaxed and in the moment.
Now, as you begin sex, you will want to…
…slowly penetrate your woman then stay inside her for a while before pounding away (step #2)
This is especially important if you’re sensitive to coming too fast or suffers from premature ejaculation.
Here, you want to get used to the warmth of the vagina.
Again, as I mentioned earlier, we guys tend to get overly excited even before sex begins. Plus, being inside a woman and feeling the warmth of the vagina intensifies arousal. Also, thrusting right out of the gate causes arousal to intensify rapidly, and that makes one come sooner than he would like to when measures are not taken.
So, this approach, first of all, will make you cool down once you’re inside your girl or woman and ready to have sex. And secondly, it will keep the sensations you feel around your penis and your arousal at a manageable level so you will be able to thrust in and out of your woman without losing control quickly.
…as you begin sex, penetrate your woman or girl very very slowly. Heck! take a FULL MINUTE to enter her.
Now, when you’re completely inside your girl or woman, don’t go thrusting right out of the gate, else your arousal may escalate and you could lose control and climax quickly…
…here, stay still (inside your woman) for a while to have your penis get used to the warmth of the vagina and being inside her.
Now, if you are sensitive to coming too fast – like seconds into intercourse – you should wait longer (for about 5-10 minutes).
Here, engage in some deep passionate kissing to pass the time.
Now, when you’re ready to fuck, don’t go pounding away like a jackhammer…
…thrust in and out of your woman slowly – make love to her do not fuck her – in order to continue keeping your excitement and sexual arousal under a manageable level.
Sex is very exciting, and we guys tend to get overly excited even before sex begins.
The next step to controlling sexual arousal is to…
…keep your mind off the sensations you feel around your penis and rather focus on your woman (step #3)
This is to keep yourself from allowing the sensations and feelings you feel around your penis and the excitement to rule over your head and have you feel so turned on.
You see, when you’re preoccupied with the sensations and feelings around your penis or you’re too excited to be inside a woman, it gets you overly excited and intensifies your sexual arousal which causes you to come (ejaculate and orgasm) sooner than you would like to…
…but by not focusing on the sensations and feelings around your penis, your pleasure and arousal build more slowly and this helps in prolonging sex.
…as you make love to your girl or woman or during sex, you will want to keep your mind off the sensations and the feelings around your penis and instead, keep your focus and attention on her.
Don’t be preoccupied with how good it feels around your penis… tune out of the sensations that you feel or experience around your penis.
Give no attention to how tight and warm and wet your girl or woman’s pussy is… BUT rather keep your focus and attention on her.
The more you’re focused on your woman, the more control you will have. Plus, the less you’re overwhelmed with excitement, the more control you will have.
This will keep your arousal from becoming overwhelming and let you pound away at your woman without blowing your load early.
Getting overly-excited leads you to ejaculate sooner than you would like to.
Here’s a trick to keep your mind off the feelings around your penis:
Fix your gaze on your woman – stare at her as you penetrate her initially and as you move in and out of her during sex.
Try to read her facial expressions.
Listen to the sound or the noise she makes.
Stroke her hair.
Talk romantically to her – tell her how you feel about her – as you pound her to orgasm.
You can also lean over to kiss her passionately once in a while
This will greatly draw your attention away from the stimulation to your penis and the sensations you feel around it…
…and keep you from feeling so turned on and thus keep your arousal under control and early ejaculation at bay.
This works just like a mind-distraction trick. Just that here, you’re not solving a complicated mathematical problem that robs you of the pleasure of sex… you’re rather focusing on your woman.
By not focusing on the sensations and feeling around your penis, your pleasure and arousal build more slowly and this helps in prolonging sex.
To the next step on how to control sexual arousal.
(step #4) Make a conscious effort to maintain slow, deep, steady breaths throughout sex
This keeps your sexual arousal from escalating rapidly and pushing you toward early ejaculation.
Generally, when having sex, as arousal intensifies, our breathing rate increases as well – we start breathing faster, and then it increases further – causing us to take quick, short breaths as we get closer to orgasm…
…maintaining slow, deep, steady breaths throughout sex helps you manage your sexual arousal to hold back ejaculation and prolong sex.
…to control your sexual arousal to hold back ejaculation and prolong sex, make a conscious effort to maintain slow, deep, steady breaths during sex to keep your arousal from becoming overwhelming.
Control your breathing right from the onset of sex… feel yourself breathing more slowly and deeply into your STOMACH and SLOWLY out through the mouth. Push your belly out as you breathe in (inhale) and exhale out your mouth.
Keep your breathing patterns natural – slow, deep, steady breaths… don’t force yourself, else you will only tense your body and push yourself to ejaculate even faster.
Breathing is one of the most important components in managing sexual arousal to hold back ejaculation and prolong sex.
The next and final step on my list on how to control sexual arousal is to…
…slow down or stop stimulation when your excitement gets too intense (step #5)
This will keep your excitement and arousal from becoming overwhelming and losing control sooner than you would like to. And thus, help you delay ejaculation to prolong sex.
You see, thrusting in and out of a warm vagina is extremely stimulating and pleasurable.
The friction and stimulation to the penis intensify excitement and gradually cause arousal to heighten which pushes you closer to ejaculation and orgasm.
And that is to say, non-stop thrusting when not controlled results in ejaculation and orgasm in no time.
…when you feel you’re getting overly excited during sex, slow down your thrusting movements, then slowly breathe DEEPLY into your STOMACH and slowly out your MOUTH.
If you feel too excited and on the verge of coming (ejaculating), stop and hold perfectly still until the urge to ejaculate subsides.
You can pull out of your woman and then squeeze the head of your penis firmly between your thumb and forefinger for the urge to ejaculate to subside. It usually takes 30 to 60 seconds.
Resume sex when you feel your arousal has lessened to a manageable level.
So there you have it…
…how to control arousal.
Start sex from foreplay and spend a lot of time kissing and fondling your girl (or woman) to feel relaxed.
And as you begin sex, slowly penetrate your woman then stay inside her for a while to get used to the warmth of the vagina before pounding away.
Now, when you’re ready to fuck, don’t go pounding away like a jackhammer… thrust in and out of your woman slowly – make love to her do not fuck her – in order to continue keeping your excitement and sexual arousal under a manageable level.
Here, try to keep your mind off the sensations you feel around your penis… and rather focus on your woman.
While at it, make a conscious effort to maintain slow, deep, steady breaths throughout sex to keep your sexual arousal from escalating rapidly and pushing you toward early ejaculation.
And each time you feel like you’re on the verge of coming, slow down or stop if you have to, then take a long deep breath, hold for about 3 seconds, and then exhale slowly than you inhaled. Repeat as many times as necessary. This will slow things down and add a couple of minutes to sex.
So again, there you have it…
…how to control your sexual arousal.
I hope this article has given you an insight into how to control your sexual arousal.
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