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How to Stimulate the Clitoris

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It behooves everyone to know how to stimulate the clitoris.

The clitoris, that tiny pink organ located at the top of the female genital above the vaginal opening is incredibly sensitive.

It is the most sensitive and powerful sexual organ (an erogenous zone) on the female genital – extremely sensitive to sexual stimulation.

When stimulated properly, the clitoris provides exquisite pleasure, results in a high state of arousal, and consequently leads to orgasm.

That said, one needs to know how to stimulate the clitoris.

…and in this post, I share with you how to.

I share with you how to stimulate the clitoris with a finger, a sex toy, and during sexual intercourse.

Without further ado, let’s begin.

How to Stimulate the Clitoris

There are basically four (4) ways you can stimulate the clitoris.

Either…

  1. you rub it with a finger… you lubricate a finger and then you use the pad of the finger to rub the clitoris lightly from side to side, or in circles, or rub it up and down repeatedly.
  2. you lick the clit – this is the best way girls and women enjoy clitoral pleasure… you use the tip of your wet tongue to lick the clit lightly in circles, or side-to-side, or up and down repeatedly.
  3. you use a clitoral vibe… you lubricate the tip of the toy, then you rub the clitoris lightly from side to side, or in circles, or rub it up and down repeatedly.

You start out (stimulate the clit) slowly, then gradually increase the pressure (press firmly into the clit) and tempo (go faster) as the stimulation progresses.

And during penis-in-vagina intercourse, either…

  1. the girl or woman gets on top – cowgirl style – and then grinds her clitoris against her partner’s pubic bone
  2. or the girl lies in the missionary position, and then her partner rubs their pubic bone against it

I go into detail.

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How to Stimulate the Clitoris with a Finger

You start out by lubricating your fingers with a lubricant. Or put a few drops on the clit.

One can choose to use saliva to moisten their fingers, but lubrication makes stimulation with a finger feel better.

…it increases a woman’s pleasure.

Due to the clitoris’s extreme sensitivity, rubbing it with a finger without lubrication is not pleasurable. Plus, it can create discomfort when you rub it for too long.

Now, with a well-lubricated finger…

…you use the pad of your finger – either the index finger or the thumb – to rub (stimulate) the clitoris lightly and slowly from side to side, or rub it in circles, or rub it up and down repeatedly.

(Know that the clitoris is usually tucked under a fold of skin – the clitoral hood – so you might have to pull back or push up the fold of skin to stimulate the clitoris directly. [Read: ‘Where to Find the Clitoris’ and ‘How to Find the Clitoris’])

Closeup of the Female Genitalia
A closeup of the female genitalia and the visible part of the clitoris.

Understand…

The clitoris is extremely sensitive – very, very sensitive to touch – that most girls cannot handle direct clitoral stimulation right off the bat (or right in the beginning).

Most girls and women can handle direct stimulation of their clit, but some find it to be too intense when their clit is touched or stimulated too soon.

So generally, we rub the clit through the fold of skin covering it (the clitoral hood) without actually touching (or making contact with) the clit itself.

This (rubbing the clit through the fold of skin covering it without actually touching the clit itself) is enough to give a girl or a woman pleasure. Plus, it feels pleasurable to girls to rub the clit this way because you stimulate two erogenous zone – the clit and the clitoral hood – at the same time.

The clitoris is extremely sensitive and most girls cannot handle direct clitoral stimulation right off the bat.

Anyways…

If you’re going to stimulate the clitoris right off the bat…

…you will have to approach it (rub it) very gently.

You need to be gentle at first…

…and pay attention to the girl’s or the woman’s reaction.

If she pulls back as you stimulate the clitoris directly…

…that means it’s too intense for her – her clitoris is too sensitive and she may not be ready for direct stimulation.

Here, you will have to avoid touching the clit directly for now… and rather rub it through the fold of skin covering it.

Again, rubbing the clit through the fold of skin covering it is enough to give a girl or a woman pleasure.

Rubbing the clitoris through the clitoral hood without actually touching the clit itself is enough to give a woman pleasure.

Moving on…

On stimulating the clitoris through its protective covering…

…you rub the clitoris (with its protective covering) lightly from side to side repeatedly – applying friction against the clit underneath.

Aside from rubbing the clit through its protective covering from side to side, you can also place two fingers (your index and middle finger) on each side of the clit and run them back and forth repeatedly tracing the length of the clit. [Read all about: ‘The Front Commissure… And the Female Sexual Pleasure and Arousal’ and ‘The Clitoral Shaft… And the Female Sexual Pleasure and Arousal’]

Or use your thumb and index finger to squeeze the clitoral hood and the clit underneath and then roll both the hood and clit repeatedly.

You can also tap the clitoris (that is, strike the clitoral area) repeatedly with the pad of your finger from time to time.

You alternate your moves (your stimulation techniques) to keep things interesting for the girl. That means, if you’re rubbing the clit from side to side, you switch things up and rub the clit up and down tracing the length of the clit for a little while then you can tap on it afterward.

(As you switch between stimulation methods, pay attention to the girl to see which one gives her the most pleasure… then do it for a little longer.)

As the stimulation progresses…

…about 15 minutes or more into your stimulation, by then the girl will be sufficiently aroused – you can touch (stimulate or rub) the clitoris directly. Here, if the clit is not poking out (protruding and visible) from under its covering, you use the thumb of your other hand to pull back the covering to expose the head of the clit. Then you moisten your fingers with a lubricant or put a drop on the clit, then you press your finger into the clit and you rub it in circles, or side-to-side, or up and down, or even tap on it repeatedly.

When the girl or woman starts to moan in delight…

…and make twisting, squirming movements of her hips or tilt her genitals upward (this indicates she wants more pressure), you press firmly into the clitoris (either the clit itself or on the clitoral hood applying pressure to the clit underneath) and then you rub faster repeatedly.

…if you keep at it, the girl or woman will orgasm in no time – have a clitoral orgasm.

If the girl orgasms…

…avoid touching the clit afterward, because it will be hypersensitive, and the slightest touch will be unbearable for her.

She will even push you away and clamp her legs shut to keep you from stimulating her further.

When stimulated properly, the clitoris provides exquisite pleasure, results in a high state of arousal, and consequently leads to orgasm.

A friendly tip:

Make sure your hands – everything from the pad of your fingertips to the edges of your fingernails – are in the right condition for touching a girl’s sensitive clitoris.

Get yourself a manicure if you have to.

The clitoris is a powerful sexual organ… and when stimulated properly, provides exquisite pleasure, results in a high state of arousal, and consequently leads to orgasm.

How to Stimulate the Clitoris Orally

This is the best way girls and women enjoy clitoral stimulation.

…the tongue can produce electric sensations on the clitoris in ways that a finger or a toy can’t.

Not to mention…

…the clitoris is extremely sensitive, and a warm, soft, wet tongue feels much better than a finger or a toy – lubed or not.

Now, understand…

If you will want to or will love to lick the clitoris, then you will have to start your sexual activity from the shower.

…ask the girl to take a shower with you.

You can say something like…

“Let’s hit the shower and get clean and then fuck our brains out… I want to lick your pussy and make you come hard for me”.

You see, a girl will be reluctant to have someone’s face between her legs when she’s not prepared for it. This is because of the worry of how she might taste or smell down there.

…if a girl doesn’t feel fresh down there, she’s not going to be comfortable having someone lick her.

So again, if you will want to or will love to lick the clitoris, then you will have to start your sexual activity from the shower.

It’s always a good idea to incorporate a shared bath or shower into foreplay… so that you’re both clean and fresh.

A shower makes one feel clean and fresh… and this will help alleviate a girl’s worries or fear of exuding a bad odor down there – she won’t worry about having an unpleasant smell down there. And it will make her receptive and open to having your face between her legs.

If you’re with a new girl, this (shower) is the first thing you need to do to make her comfortable with having your face between her legs to lick her.

Plus, if you have concerns about licking a girl down there or worry about an unpleasant smell, having a girl take a shower will help you to enjoy the light, natural pussy scent.

Genital odor is the number source of anxiety for girls when it comes to receiving oral sex.

Moving on…

To stimulate the clit with your tongue…

…and you can do this:

  1. by having the girl or woman lying on her back on the bed or other flat surface – this is the most common way to lick the clitoris because you have the easiest access to it and it’s a comfortable position for both of you to be in and enjoy the act.
  2. she can sit on a bed or couch with her butt at the edge, then you kneel in front of her.
  3. she can stand with her legs apart (or spread out), then you kneel down before her and between her legs
  4. you can lie on your back on the bed then have her lower herself onto your mouth in a kneeling position, with her crotch aligned to your mouth… “Sit-On-My-Face” or “Face-Sitting”, they call it
  5. or she can get on all fours (knees and elbows) in a doggy position

Whichever position you choose…

…you use a thumb to pull back the fold of skin covering the clitoris so the clitoris is exposed, then you lick the clitoris lightly with the tip of your wet tongue in circles, or side-to-side, or up and down repeatedly.

Aside from pushing up the clitoral hood to lick the clitoris, you can also suck on the clitoral area gently into your mouth and use the tip of your wet tongue to flick (or lick) the clitoris lightly from side to side or lick it up and down or trace circles over it repeatedly.

You alternate your moves (your stimulation techniques) to keep things interesting for the girl. That means, if you’re licking the clit up and down, you switch things up and lick from side to side for a little then in circles afterward.

(As usual, as you switch between stimulation methods, pay attention to the girl to see which one gives her the most pleasure… then do it for a little longer.)

And when the girl or woman starts to moan in delight and make twisting, squirming movements of her hips or tilt her genitals up toward your mouth, you suck the clitoris into your mouth and use the tip of your tongue to lick it up and down firmly as if you are drinking from a straw. This move is powerful and it can make girls or women orgasm.

…if you keep at it, the girl or woman will orgasm in no time. [Read: ‘How to Lick the Clitoris’]

Expect the girl to push you away and clamp her legs shut to keep you from licking her further.

Read about: ‘Oral Sex… And Sexual Pleasure

Also read: ‘How to Go Down on a Girl’ and ‘12 Hot Spots to Stimulate During Oral Sex

Licking the clitoris with the tongue is the best way girls and women enjoy clitoral stimulation.

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Now, let’s look at…

…how to stimulate the clitoris using a sex toy

Get yourself a clitoral vibrator… they are small and provide an intense vibration perfect for giving a woman or a girl the clitoral pleasure she needs.

Now, just like how you stimulate the clit with a finger, you do the same with the toy.

You start out by applying a lubricant to the head of the toy.

And I can’t stress this enough…

…the clitoris is very sensitive, and direct stimulation is too intense for some girls and women.

That said…

…you will have to rub (stimulate) the clit through the fold of skin covering it without actually making contact with the clit itself.

Again, this is enough to give a girl or woman pleasure.

You use the toy to stimulate the clitoral hood lightly from side to side, applying friction against the clit underneath…

…you can also run the toy back and forth repeatedly tracing the length of the clit.

And when the girl or woman starts to moan in delight and make twisting, squirming movements of her hips or tilt her genitals upward (indicating she wants more pressure), you press the vibe firmly into the clit…

…if you keep at it, she will orgasm in no time.

Sex toys are a great way to spice up your sexy time together.

Now, we look at…

…How to Stimulate the Clitoris During Penis-In-Vagina Intercourse

There are three ways to go about this…

  1. first is rubbing the clit with your finger or a clit vibe as you thrust in and out of her
  2. second is having the girl or woman get on top and having her grind her clitoris against your pubic bone
  3. and the third way is by rubbing your pubic bone against the clitoris when you’re the one on top

I go into detail.

Rubbing the clit with your finger as you thrust in and out of a girl

Since you know by now how to stimulate the clitoris with a finger – as I discussed earlier in this post – you should use similar motions during penetration.

You penetrate the girl, then you begin using your thumb to gently stimulate her clitoris.

Now, let’s get into #2 and #3.

So…

…provided the girl or woman is the one on top during sex, the cowgirl style

That is, when you lie on your back then have the girl get on top of you – in the cowgirl sex position – straddles you with her legs on each side of you…

…she leans forward and then places her hands on your chest or on the bed, and instead of her moving up and down with your penis inside her, you have her grind and rub her genitals or her clitoral area against your pelvis.

Here, she dictates the pressure, speed, and rhythm applied to her clitoris.

The Girl-On-Top Position is one of the best and easiest positions to adequately stimulate the clitoris.

How to Stimulate the Clitoris During Sex
The Girl-On-Top Position is one of the best and easiest positions to adequately stimulate the clitoris.

When you’re on top, in the missionary position…

This is when the woman or girl lies on her back on the bed.

…you penetrate deep into her then shift your body upward so that your pubic bone maintains contact with the clitoris.

You can place a pillow under the girl’s butt, which will elevate her hip so that her pelvis perfectly aligns with yours for direct clitoral stimulation.

…and instead of thrusting in and out of the girl or woman, use your pubic bone to apply pressure on the clitoral area and then grind and rub against the clitoris.

You start out grinding and rubbing against the clit slowly and then gradually grind faster as the sex progresses.

How to Stimulate the Clitoris in the Missionary Position
This posture provides great clitoral stimulation.

So, there you have it…

…how to stimulate the clitoris – with a finger, orally, during sexual intercourse, and with a toy.

Read: ‘How to Make a Girl Cum

Don’t forget to also read: ‘How to Please a Woman in Bed

You may also want to read: ‘10 Interesting Facts about the Clitoris That’ll Make Your Hair Stand on End

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So again, there you have it…

…how to stimulate the clitoris.

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